November 6, 2014
When You're Ready
I think any of us girls with boyfriends, and even those without, can agree that attending a wedding and watching friends or family members standing at the alter, reciting their vows to the person they love most in the world, is more than enough to send us into swirls of giddy daydreams and "wedding-fever". It seems like the day can't come fast enough when it will be our turn, and we will be the one standing up there in a gorgeous gown staring into the eyes of that oh so special man.
It's a hard wait when you still haven't met the guy of your dreams. It's even harder once you've found him because, well, you finally found him and can't until death do us part just start now? Holding your horses and waiting until the time is right is incredibly tough and frustrating at times. I know that for you guys, it's tough to wait it out as well.
They say there is never a perfect time to get married. You'll never be at the perfect spot in your life/career. you'll never be the most ideal candidate for marriage, heaven knows your finances will never ever be in the perfect spot. When it comes to that, we can't hold out for perfect, we have to hold out for good enough-ish and hope as we jump that God is going to be there to catch us when we land. Because really, things like perfect finances and your career aren't necessary to a holy marriage.
What is necessary, however, is that you are ready.
Can you honestly say that you are ready to be married? That you want it with your whole heart and soul to be joined to this man for the rest of your life, and guys, are you ready to be joined to this woman until the day you die? Can you look into their eyes and know beyond a shadow of the doubt that for better or for worse, you are all in, and you are ready to face whatever comes next as long as they are the one standing by your side?
Knowing that you are ready, and you have no hesitations, doubts or second guessing about whether you have the right person, is I think the question that matters more than any other when you get ready to tie the knot. Finances and your career can be negotiated with, realizing you weren't ready after you've said "I do" is a whole lot harder.
Last weekend, my cousin and her fiancee got married, and it was a beautiful ceremony and awesome reception. As we were getting ready to head out that night, my aunt/Mother of the Bride was talking with us, about the day, how everything went. She said, "I wanted some time alone with her before the wedding, and I sat down and said 'You know if you don't want to do this, you don't have to. We can get in the car and I'll drive away.' She was like 'Mom!' and I said 'I'm serious! If you feel pressured at all or you don't want to do this, we can go.' She said 'Mom, I am ready to walk down that aisle and see my best friend waiting for me at the other end.' And all that morning, [my cousin's fiancee] kept asking me, 'What does she look like? I can't wait to see her'. Both of them couldn't wait to see each other. And I was like, 'They're ready.'"
It was a beautiful story, and watching the two of them that night you could tell. This was serious for them and they meant their commitment to each other. They were ready.